Do You Have Hyper-Empathy Syndrome? If You Feel Every Emotion Around You, You Might.

It’s like people with hyper-empathy syndrome have long antennas that pick up on every emotion vibrating around them.

But they end up losing themselves in other people’s needs and poisoning themselves with too much compassion, even feeling guilty for the pain that others experience. It is painful and exhausting.

Maybe you’re surprised this is a “syndrome.” Are we going overboard by labeling apparently “normal” behaviors pathological?

The answer is no, and there’s an explanation for it. If the DSM-V labels hyper-empathy as a characteristic of personality disorders, then it’s for a good reason.

Any behavior that makes it harder to relate to other people, causes suffering, and prevents you from living a normal life needs a diagnosis and some kind of treatment.

Therefore, people with too much empathy, or hyper-empathy, who show a persistent pattern of distress and inability to function in their social, personal, and professional lives, show signs of a personality disorder.

Now, it’s important to clarify that there’s a difference between being really sensitive and having hyper-empathy syndrome.

Empathy and hyper-empathy, the fine line between balance and pathology

If empathy is a positive, useful, and desirable attribute, then you may think there’s nothing wrong with having “too much” of it. But like everything in life, excess is never good, and it’s best to have a healthy balance.

Hyper-empathy affects your ability to separate yourself from other people. Empathy is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. But it’s important to specify that when you do so, you never stop being yourself.

It’s also important to recognize the different types of empathy you may experience, which ones are healthy, and which may cross into pathology.

Affective empathy: This has to do with the ability to feel the emotions and feelings that someone else is experiencing and have compassion for them. You feel how they feel.

Cognitive empathy: This gives you more complete and exact knowledge about the content of the other person’s mind. You know and understand how they feel.

Excess empathy, or hyper-empathy: This involves being both a mirror and a sponge. Not only do you feel what the other person feels, but you suffer from it. It’s a physical pain that causes anxiety and subjects you to their needs. You can’t see where you end and they begin.

What can you do if you have too much empathy?

At this point, most of you are probably wondering causes someone to suffer so much by taking on other people’s emotions. Well, there has been a lot of progress on the subject in recent years. In fact,researchers are discovering the genetic and neurochemical basis of hyper-empathy.

Researchers are learning a lot from so-called empathy spectrum disorders, such as Asperger’s syndrome, hyper-empathy syndrome, and borderline personality disorder. It’s an interesting subject that will give significant answers and better treatment approaches in the next few years.

Whether you’re at the most pathological extreme of empathy, or you’re simply hypersensitive, it’s always a good idea to learn techniques that can help you set limits, have more control over your own thoughts, take better care of your own needs, and more accurately define your own identity and self-esteem.