We can all agree that a person’s beauty is subjective, and that while one person might find someone attractive, another might not consider that person their type. Each individual is unique and has something different about him or her that makes them beautiful in their own way. However, research shows that the majority of people from all over the world can agree that there are three specific personality traits that make a person attractive, which just goes to show that your looks aren’t everything.
Looks. Contrary to what we’ve been conditioned to think, your looks aren’t the most important thing about you. Millions of men and women all over the world obsess over their hair, face, body, and clothes just so they can be deemed attractive, but according to several studies, your attractiveness might have more to do with what’s on the inside than your physical appearance.
Personality traits. Psychologists have agreed that there are three basic personality traits that make people more attractive and easy to be around. They are having a positive attitude, balanced extroversion, and a good amount of self-confidence, reports My Domaine.
Optimism. It’s no surprise that optimism is seen as an attractive personality trait, because people always want to be around others with positive attitudes. No one wants to date someone who’s constantly looking at the negative side of things, because hey, life’s too short. And according to several study, people who are optimistic also live longer.
Attitudes. People with positive attitudes are also able to get along better with their peers, meaning they perform better at work, are mentally healthier, and perceived as more attractive on top of it all, reports My Domaine. But don’t worry if you’re not exactly the brightest ray on the sun, it’s possible to train yourself to think positively through mental exercises and deep breathing.
Extroverts. As far as being extroverted, it’s also not very surprising that people consider this an attractive quality. For one, you won’t get anywhere sitting in a corner by yourself not talking to anyone. According to psychologist Adrian Furnham, extroverted people have the most “mating success” out of anyone.
Better social skills. Extroverts are more sociable, sensation-seeking, and tend to have have more social support. They are usually more socially skilled and interpersonally confident,” writes Furham, via Psychology Today.
Change. While not everyone can help their personalities, there are ways to become a more extroverted person without having to completely turn your life around. For one, come to terms with the fact that you’re introverted, but don’t beat yourself up over it. Instead, praise yourself for wanting to make a change.
Attractiveness. The way you carry yourself has the ability to completely change the way people perceive you. Psychologists have even gone as far as to say that confidence trumps physical attractiveness.
Feeling good. “The kind of confidence we’re talking about really comes down to feeling good about your appearance and attractiveness. Men and women both prefer a confident date, for a number of reasons,” says Harvard psychologist Craig Malkhin, as reported by The Date Report.
Smile. Researchers at Webster University scoped out a nearby bar to study how people flirted. They noticed how girls who smiled and looked directly at men got the most attention, no matter what they looked like.
Sending signals. “Amazingly, it didn’t matter what these women looked like! A confident woman who sends signals will win out over a pretty, retiring one ever time,” said Malkin, as reported by The Date Report.
What really matters. So remember, you don’t need to be the next Miss America to snag yourself a date. At the end of the day, what matters most is that you’re kind, caring, honest, and not a disagreeable person overall.
Looks. It’s also important to keep in mind that you shouldn’t be judging people solely based on their looks either. You never know what type of incredible person you could be missing out on simply because you didn’t like their shoes!
You. Were you surprised that these were the traits people found the most attractive? Why or why not? Share your thoughts with us!